A Pastor's Wife and the hypocrisy of self-appointed morality police and cultural gate keepers

STOP BERATING AND LETTING OFF STEAM IN THE BASHING OF THE RCCG PASTOR'S WIFE

Sometimes, I wonder where all these intensive free flow and dissipation of energy is coming from, especially in a matter that doesnot directly concern you and  which you were not at anytime appointed a moral Judge, cultural custodian, public defender or a traditional gate keeper. I wonder yet again, is it emanating from the fact that we have so much spare time on our hands or we seek to make up for our innate appreciation or recognition deficit, where is all these charged up atmosphere and hullabaloo coming from, I ask again.

I see the "colour purple" of hypocrisy being fed fat with nutritious juice and released in full flight and blaze here and witnessing the glut in the social media and other media platforms, gossip inclusive, I was pushed to response, especially when some of my friends and associates got involved in the debate and crossfire. 

You see, sometimes, we should dress backwards, recline and also take a look at things critically in a quiet review and leave some room or opening for that possibility of  some back drops that we might never know about or pick up and as such might just do well in showing some restraint in our eager desire to shoot from all cylinders.

Now, back to church things and spirituality. Wigwe's contribution should ideally be his spiritual commitment to God and he must have dealt with the Church and the Pastor officially and administratively with regards to  all his good deeds and the  hovering loan that he facilitated to his place of worship and knowing the banks and their safeguards and documentation would be paid back, except some very unlikely and unusual dynamics flourish here. 

Wigwe has really nothing personal or emotional per say with the Pastors Wife, although morally, culturally and in terms of empathy, she's ideally supposed to show restraint but beyond some elements of hypocrisy and eye service, these things should not be casted in stone,there is no amount of honour or reverence that will reverse that last call. Take a case of a gallant Soldier or General who died liberating his country in a bitter war, there are  usually no commotion, a small military ceremony with some family members and few well wishers and they are committed to earth and that's it and if he is a Moslem, he is buried some hours later or at the most if logistics would not allow, the next day. Whilst it's good to honour the dead, people shouldnot be taken to ransome or given a behavioural template or checklist, let it come from within and of their own volution , how they want to mourn or honour the person. For instance I recall when we lost a a dear friend some of my friends were not in attendance on his final journey or at the Grave side cremonies but that didnot elevate those of  us that were there on the "mourner-board or strata", it didnot also make those of us that did any better or closer to the deceased or register us as even more compassionate as it were, it's a  heart and mind thing and people should be free to process and make their choices in this regard.

But here is another window to the kernel of the gist, has it occurred to any one out there  that invitations have been sent out long before the Access Bank Chief Executive death. Contractual Agreements have been drawn along with other commitments with the  Event Planners, suppliers and other service providers while  the designated venue, entertainment and catering have been paid for as well. What about the Aso Oke, tailoring and the inputs of other outfitters and decorators, and then  the choice drinks as we are want to do in these parts.All these well programmed and laid out logics cannot all be wished away with a snap of the finger or a phone call. It is even possible that it's at the behest or the urging and prompting of insiders, associates and  family members of Wigwe  that actually made the party to go ahead with statements like "Herbert would have wanted you to go ahead", I am sure you have all heard this before.

Let's stop this self righteous indignation that is crested, spiced and garnised with the soft and poisonous fluidity of hypocrisy, the established hallmark and mark of professional mourners who quickly revert to their behavourial status quo of doing atrocious and far more embarrassing things hours after their "death principal" whom they weave their act around is commited to the ground. 

Enough is enough, all you self appointed moral, spiritual and cultural police should please leave Dr. Siju Iluyomade alone, she did nothing wrong in celebrating her 60th Birthday with plump, happiness and flair, exactly the way she wanted it. 

Let's take these things easy abeg.

Lumi Igun

A Public Relations Consultant

weighed in and writes from Lagos